How Narcissist Use Altruism To Control Others

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Altruism is oftentimes viewed as a noble and honorable trait to have. To care about others in the same way you care about yourself is nice, but it is godly for many people.

Many religions teach that it is everyone's job to do for everyone else or those less fortunate.

Altruism is what everyone should strive for.

However, this way of thinking, of putting others first, is nothing more than a tool that narcissists and toxic people use to control everyone around them.

As long as you can convince others that their lives are in service to everyone else, tan you have someone, you can make your willful slave.

Because in the end, nobody wants to be a bad person, right?

In this article, I want to express how narcissists and toxic people use altruism to control others and why it is important to learn how to put yourself first.

How Narcissist Use Altruism To Control Others

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“God wants you to help me with my affairs in life. Jesus said to be thy brother's keeper. So come pick me up at this club. I know it is 3 am in the morning, and you are sleeping, but…What Would Jesus Do?”

Narcissists know how to play the victim and know how to pull on the heartstrings of those around them.

And they do this primarily through the act of being the victim and then convincing us that it is our job to be their keeper.

In other words, be their mommy, their daddy, their rock, their comfort, their savior, their hero.

We are supposed to put them first because…altrusim.

“Care about me and my worthless life. Otherwise, you are a selfish, narcissistic person.”

They really know how to play the victim and know how to project as well.

True selfishness and true narcissism are not caring about others, but to dare demand that everyone you meet in your life is supposed to care about you and do for you.

That is narcissism.

To require, NO, to DEMAND, everyone drops what they are doing for you at any given time, and if that person refuses or says they can't, they are bad people.

Narcissists…the kidults they are, are some of the most entitled people you will ever encounter, and they use altruism and being nice as a way to control others.

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Now, I know for many the act of putting yourself first may very well seem toxic.

We have been taught, especially in the west, that it is righteous, noble, honorable, and godlike to place others before ourselves.

But this is a child's definition of righteous and good morality.

A child needs to be taken care of, but a grown adult with all their cognitive facilities in function DOES NOT NEED THAT.

It is not your or anyone else's job to look after and always comply with their wishes because they are just too darn entitled to do anything for themselves.

Why is it okay for you to always say yes to them, but it is not okay to say yes to yourself?

How do they have the right over your life, time, energy, and dreams, but you don't have the right over your own life?

What do you gain from always putting your dreams and goals first but putting your dreams last?

Who is to gain the most from a relationship like this?

And where do you think life like that will be headed?

Your life is for you. You help those YOU WANT TO HELP, not those who DARE demand that you help them.

Altruism is more of a vice and means of control than it is a virtue, and I will be d*mned if I keep putting others before I put myself.

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I refuse to allow the negative people in life to tear me down. I will not be defeated by life, life will be defeated by my will to be happy.

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