The Narcissist As Eternal Child

“Puer Aeternus” — the eternal adolescent, the sempiternal Peter pan — is a phenomenon often associated with pathological narcissism. People who refuse to grow up strike others as self-centered and aloof, petulant and brattish, arrogant and demanding — in short: as childish or infantile.

The narcissist is a partial adult (a kidult). They seek to avoid adulthood. Infantilisation — the discrepancy between one’s…